Answers From A Birth Mother:
Q: What are some of the reasons you decided to place your baby for adoption?
A: “I am not with the father, I am financially struggling, I can barely take care of myself, I do not have the support needed to make it through the pregnancy or life as a single mom.”
Q: How did you originally feel about adoption?
A: “I was scared of judgment, I was afraid for my future child, but I was hopeful.”
Q: How do you know it was the right decision?
A: “I knew once I met the adoptive parents, that things were falling into place.”
Q: What are some of the things you considered as you decided on an adoptive family?
A: “I wanted to work with a family that weren’t able to have their own children, I wanted a two-parent family, I wanted an educated family, I wanted a family that could provide what I could not for this child.”
Q: What was it like to meet the adoptive family?
A: “The first meeting was very awkward, but I love spending time with them throughout the pregnancy now and getting to know them. We are becoming friends. That matters.”
Q: Do you have an open or closed adoption?
A: “Semi open adoption.”
Q: As a birth mother, what was your delivery experience in the hospital like?
A: “Very emotional, but I felt like I could voice my fears and was able to share the time with the adoptive family. It seemed like we were all in the chaos together.”
Q: Do you feel connected to your child?
A: “That is a personal and difficult answer, but I am happy about their family and the place they are now.”
Q: How do you cope with the emotions associated with choosing adoption?
A: “Therapy was great, I stopped after a few months, but recently decided to go back to counseling.”
Q: How has your experience been with Children of the World?
A: “I love working with Children of the World, and Tonya. Tonya has become a close, personal friend. I know I can always check in with her, and most of the time, she checks on me.”
Q: What advice or encouragement would you give to someone who is considering adoption for their baby?
A: “Get to know Tonya at Children of the World. She will connect you with other birth mothers if you need to talk and some will share experiences. Know your rights, you choose your family. That is important.”
Q: What is something you think prospective adoptive parents should know about birth mothers?
A: “Treat the birth mothers with respect, honor them, honor their heritage and history.”
Answers From A Single Parent Who Adopted From Puerto Rico:
Q: What prompted your adoption journey?
A: “I have always wanted to be a mom, and there are children in the world that need families. I wanted the chance to be that family.”
Q: Why did you choose domestic adoption specifically?
A: “I was concerned about the effect Covid had on international adoption.”
Q: How did you originally feel about adoption?
A: “I have always thought that adoption was the best option for me.”
Q: What did you first think about open versus closed adoption?
A: “After looking into both options, I think I would prefer an open adoption.”
Q: How did you feel after first meeting your birth mother?
A: “In Puerto Rico, my adoption is closed, and the family's rights were already terminated prior to matching.”
Q: What is the one thing you want your son / daughter to always remember about their adoption story?
A: “I want my son to remember how much I loved him through the whole process.”
Answers From Parents Who Adopted An Infant:
Q: What prompted your adoption journey?
A: “We began our adoption journey because we went through several years of infertility treatment and were unsuccessful. We prayed a lot and decided that God was leading us to adopt.”
Q: Why did you choose domestic adoption specifically?
A: “We chose domestic adoption because we know there are many children in our own community who need loving families.”
Q: How did you originally feel about adoption?
A: “We felt like it was unattainable. We felt like it would be too expensive.”
Q: What did you first think about open versus closed adoption?
A: “We felt like an open adoption would be better for the child. We wanted her to have a connection to her birth family.”
Q: How did you feel after first meeting your birth mother?
A: “We felt like we needed to fight as hard as we could to keep her.”
Q: What was your birth story experience like? Were you a part of the delivery?
A: “We were contacted by the birth grandparents prior to her birth. The birth mother and father had already lost custody of their other two children, and they knew the birth mother was pregnant, but didn’t know when she was due. We got our baby at 5 days old. She was abandoned at the hospital by her birth mother and father.”
Q: “What has your experience been with open adoption?”
A: “We love that her birth grandparents want to have a relationship with her. We communicate often and try to get together as much as possible.”
Q: How do you celebrate adoption in your family?
A: “We tell others that adoption is a gift from God. He knew we needed her as much as she needed us.”
Q: What is the one thing you want your son / daughter to always remember about their adoption story?
A: “We want her to know that God picked her specifically for us. She was chosen to be a part of our family and she is treasured.”
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